Saturday, October 6, 2012

Still here! *I think the video is working now!*

I am sitting for just a few minutes and it is nice.

To say the last 2 months have been kicking my butt would be a huge understatement. (Big. Huge!...I really can never say "Huge" without thinking of Julia Roberts). Anyway, I think I was a teeny bit unprepared for the career change that I am currently in the process of undergoing. I say "career" change because even though I am most definitely still in education , there is not one tiny part, not one minute of my day that even slightly resembles my past life.

 Being an assistant principal is not harder than teaching, it is just different. I am really enjoying my new home at PHS and learning A TON, which is nice. It is just difficult trying to process so many new things/roles/responsibilities. My hours are longer and my drive is about 4 times longer than it used to be, so I am definitely feeling some effects at home, as well. Luckily for me, I have the most awesome husband, parents and in-laws in the world. I think I am averaging around 60+ hours a week right now being away from home and without their support (my mother seriously cooks us dinner more than just periodically), my life would have just stopped 6 weeks ago. I am figuring out what our "new normal" looks like and ways to make our lives even more efficient.

I will say that without realizing it, I have been sort of training for this time in my life. Being annoyingly energetic and never actually sitting down has made my transition to non-stop day pretty easy. Being an imom, I can multi-task and prioritize with the best of them. I wasn't exactly a 8-4 teacher, so I am used to long nights on the ball field. I was raised by a mom who told me I could do whatever I wanted when I grew up and I believed her. She is pretty much making this happen for me right now.

** SIDE NOTE: This is in reference to the fact that numerous people feel the need to project their rudeness on me in the form of some variation of this phrase, "I could never do your job. You know, you just don't get this time with your kids back."  Rude. Every single mom knows that mom guilt is a real thing, so why (WHY??) would anyone say this to me? And, it is a lot of people, not just anyone. Despite the fact that I previously mentioned that my mom has sent food home on occasion, I am NOT neglecting my kid. Actually, it is the opposite. I see this job as an opportunity to create a life for him and be a model to him of setting goals and reaching them. We spend a lot of time together. Mostly, because he takes a nap at MDO, so bedtime is after 9. (Don't think to judge me on that one, too. If you are thinking it should be closer to 7, I will congratulate you once again on the vacation that you enjoyed during your child's toddler years) I am ranting during my rant, I need to get a grip. My point is that my mom told me to pursue my dreams, so I chose to be a working mom who balances my career with my home life. It is difficult, but I (we) are making it work. Also, is it wrong that I don't want this time back? Don't get me wrong, Anderson is the. best. thing.ever and makes me laugh/smile/pause in wonder multiple times a day, but I love him more every day, so I can't imagine ever just wishing away who he is for who he was. Right?? I also hate, "It doesn't get easier", but that is a rant for a later post.**

So, to prove just how much wonderful, amazing, quality time we are having, here are some pics from the last few weeks...
 Shaving cream and paint party in the backyard.
 We made fire trucks with Jack at Lowe's! You MUST check out the Lowe's Build & Grow clinics. The finished products are so cute. And, if you need any help, Clare & I are becoming experts at making things with wheels:) **Speaking of Clare, Jack is going to have a little sister!! We found that out a few weeks ago & are SO excited. She will join us some time in Feb (or maybe Jan?)!
 We found a random safety day on the way home & had to stop for snow cones and ambulance sightings. With this regard, boys are way easier to entertain! I can't wait to see how Lucy Brimer fits in with all of our boy activities!
 Bobble Cole hooked us up with a $3 Halloween costume! (Well, it is between firefighter and police officer, as of now.) My mom made him a yarn hose. LOTS of fires everywhere we go.
 All firefighters only wear underwear in real life, of course.
 Our front porch. I love fall and I think it is because Halloween & Thanksgiving are my favorite holidays. I am PUMPED about Halloween festivities this year. Having a kid is the best around fun holidays because it gives you an excuse to do fun stuff. We have a pretty epic October planned with Jack & Lily, so we will keep you posted.
 Trying to get a final shot of a few of our summer clothes. I know I say it all the time, but thank you Kohls for making (& GG for buying) so many patch/eye shirts!! Someone high up in design at Kohl's has a kid in an eyepatch, I just know it.
 Speaking of GG, look at this awesome new toy she got him! He can actually ride it, which is precious.
 Nicole got him these sandwich cutters and one is an airplane, which means he will eat peanut butter sandwiches at school!! So fun.
I discovered a mini size shake from Sonic that is perfect for him (and, usually he doesn't finish it, so I get mine and a bit of his, which is nice:) Thanks, Cousin Shae for creating these! I credit her with everything Sonic does right. 
 Playing at a park with Jack-an ambulance was spotted! Jack is hidden back there, but it was the best pic I could get.

I try, but I am just not as much fun as Brandon at games like this.
First Powell game! Anderson had a blast playing with Bop, having snacks, running all over the track "playing football" AND one of my former students was a firefighter there, so he let us climb all over the fire truck & ambulance! Powell is pretty good at football, so I have a feeling that our season is going to go for awhile. This will probably not be his last game!

 LOTS of Lily time over the past few weeks. We celebrated her 3 1/2 birthday! The first thing she said to me when she saw me was, "Hi, Sissa! It's my birthday." We are really big on not spoiling our kids around here.
 Playing with this snake that Anderson had to have at Michael's (Note: Taking two 2 year olds to Michaels' will entertain/exhaust you- a lesson that Clare & I learned!)
Anderson's school had Open House & it was great to see his room & hear all about him. I was so proud of this post it note! That little sticky note took us  A LONG TIME, so I had to snap a pic!  A direct quote from his teacher, "If only all kids were like him, our jobs would be so easy." I am a little sad that she clearly doesn't recognize her kids yet, because she got him confused with someone else, clearly. She said he knows all of his shapes, letters, numbers and colors and is so kind. I agree with that part, but I am not sure we always see the non-tantrum throwing, sharing boy that she sees!


 I was lucky enough to spend a night in Chattanooga with Emily & Nicole a few weeks ago. We had an AWESOME time...going to Target, talking, eating free breakfast, eating at a delicious pizza place, eating yummy dessert and just hanging out! All of the planning was done by our very own travel agent, Emily Hortina. Also, big shout out to Noni who kept Anderson, since Brandon was working. Looking forward to our next trip!
 Lily & Bug at the Powell Soccer game where I was ridiculously thankful to the middle school kids who entertained them, while I acted official as the administrator at the game. (This did not actually require any work, but it was nice to have them entertained anyway)
 We made blueberry muffins
and cupcakes!!


And, a video for your viewing pleasure! Thank you, Incredibles, for promoting the fact that wearing glasses makes you a superhero!!

10 comments:

  1. 1. I can not believe someone would actually say that to you. wth. What is wrong with people.
    2. I do actually come up with all the good ideas at Sonic. So you are welcome ;)
    3. Potty training a boy=horribleness. The only thing on the same level is teaching them to tie shoes. Ugh.
    4. Wow Brandon can throw him high. When we go swimming at Michael's apartment, Michael throws them in the water. Then Jacob comes over to me asks me to do it. Not quite as fun...
    5. One time when Jacob was a baby, I was talking to my hairdresser who had 2 teens at the time. Her advice was this: don't skimp on the bedtime cuddling. She told me that she still, at the age they were then, would get in the bed with them at night and just talk. Just ask about their day, etc. She told me, 'you will be surprised how they will open up to you at bedtime." I have always loved bedtime with Jacob, which is why I still "reward" him with mommy sleepovers in Abby's bed. But now that his life is getting busier with sports, often the only time we have to take a breath is bedtime. So screw conventional "bed times" for kids. If I don't get him into bed until 9:30 because of how busy our night was, I will still lie with him and snuggle if only for a few minutes. My point is, you do what works for your family, and only listen to the positive people in your life. Become deaf when a negative person offers "helpful" hints...

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    1. Also, I totally thought of Julia Roberts before you even mentioned her. We are all so much alike it is scary ;)

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  2. I have found that most of the unsolicited "advice" I have received over the years has come from people who really don't have it all together. I just don't participate in the "mompetition" game. Thinking about it just takes up too much of my time. I firmly believe there is no "right way" where kids are concerned. You are clearly doing a great job and spending plenty of time with Anderson. I've seen all the adorable pics and fun videos to prove it.

    Shannon's teachers all used to tell us that she was such a delight,helpful and considerate to others... We'd just look at each other and laugh, and wish that kid existed at home.

    I disagree with the people that say it doesn't get better, or easier. I feel sorry for them too. I have two tweens at home and most of the time they are freakin' awesome.

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  3. It is 500% possible to be a working mom and raise a happy, functioning child! People need to mind their own business. I'm sure you are doing great as a vice principal, and look how happy Anderson is in the pictures. Total proof you are superwoman. How precious is he in the fireman costume?!

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  4. Holy crap!!! People are not right! I think they are jealous of your awesomeness. :) I mean really I am little jealous, not enough to say something idiotic, but still jealous. You have an adorable child who you love very much. He knows it. THAT is all that counts.

    OH MY WORD! He gets some serious air. My dad used to do that to me. I still remember the feeling of flying even if it is just for a second. Awesome shot, btw.

    He looks so big in the picture with the shake. So grown up.

    The orange patch at the game is awesome.

    So many things to say, but I will stop for now. I wish you all the best with your new job/schedule. You are AWESOME! So is your kiddo! P.S. Sorry... I might have exceeded the legal limit of the word awesome in this comment. :)

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  5. Phew! People suck. Working moms do not suck- we rock. Stay-at-home moms also rock in a way that I am continually impressed by/jealous of/and thankful that I am not-of (it depends on the day). You are, of course, Awesome (Missy, one can never use awesome too much!). Your mom is also awesome, do you think I could borrow her?
    Love the patch pics- well all the pics. I bet you are a GREAT principal!

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  6. I've been trying to think of something constructive to say with regards to mom-guilt and being a working mom. I'm struggling because I am still trying to wrap my brain around it for myself. What I can say is that you inspire me. You inspire me to be a working mom and you inspire me to be a better mom. If I have learned anything about you from reading your blog, it's apparent that you live in the moment. No matter how many moments (or even how few), as long as you are present in the moments you get you are giving Anderson, your family and your career all that is deserves. Keep living your dreams, keep living your life and don't look back. Love ALL the pics, could comment on every single one... but will just stop here. :)

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  7. Oh Melissa, just let all those nasty people talk. They are just unhappy people. I see you in action, you do more with Anderson in one weekend, then some people do in a month. Just enjoy your life and be the best you can be, everything else will fall into place. You are AWESOME. Love you

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  8. Melissa,
    People say stuff like that too me all the time about working...you are amazing and your students are blessed to have you. Usually the people that find time to give you negative feedback are just bored! They find a need to comment when they should keep their opinions to their self...ok, now I am ranting!!! Love all the pics!

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  9. the video worked for me before. it must love me. BUt, blogger is just now letting me comment.

    Jealousy is a rough, rough thing. I am a horrible sister, because WHY have I not already gone off on these people or at least called with a power pep talk?

    I like this comment the best (from amanada, the i-mom):. If I have learned anything about you from reading your blog, it's apparent that you live in the moment.

    I think she says it best. Anderson is awesome and loves you and is having "an epic childhood." Treat those people (in your head- not outloud or you will get fired) as you treated the chick-fil-a trashy woman. They are jealous, and their lives suck, and their kids have no personalities.

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